DO vs. BE

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In my opinion, knowing what you want to “do” is more important than knowing what you want to “be”.

You can know what you want to be but it doesn’t matter if you don’t know what you want to do to get there. If you know what you want to do, you can make up your own titles along the way. There is no destination except happiness, the journey is everything.

So instead of trying to figure out what you want to be when you grow up, ask yourself the real question: what is it that you want to do in your lifetime? You are defined by your actions anyway. When you’re doing the things you really want to be doing with your life, your being will fall into place, and there will be no titles necessary.

This is your life. Make your own path.

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  • Justine
    February 25, 2014

    Hi Arnelle! Yet another great post. Just a few questions this inquiring mind would like your answers for: Would you say it’s ever too late to start really doing than being? Like age wise? I, myself, am 26 and still at crossroads with anything and everything (as you know, a perpetual state that most 20somethings tend to be in). And I dislike the feeling/influence that our lives need to have better “structure” by our 30s. Most times I feel like I’ve barely breached surface into adulthood (whatever adulthood means). What do you think? Our lives probably don’t compare but do you have a general take on Life deadlines?

    • arnellelozada
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      Justine
      February 25, 2014

      Hi Justine! Thanks so much for taking the time to read, as well as giving your feedback. Without sounding too cliche, in my opinion, it’s never too late to doing. People move through life at their own pace, and the only thing that I think is really important, is making sure that no matter how big or small the steps you’re taking are, that they’re always in the right direction, toward your ultimate life goal. There’s nothing wrong with trying out a number of career paths to find your true happiness, as long as you choose these paths with the bigger picture in mind. I, personally, have a degree in fashion design and worked in fashion for years before I decided to opt out and pursue a career in entertainment, where I’m much more, well…entertained. Haha.

      As far as “life deadlines”, I’m definitely not one for putting things off…I like to act and do NOW, because NOW is as good a time as any…but I also know when to be patient and calculate my moves as well. I don’t believe there are any standard “timelines” put in place by societal norms that one should feel the need to abide by. In my opinion, timelines should developed by the individual because only he/she knows what kind of life will make him/her happy, and it’s okay to not have all the answers up front, and to figure it out along the way. Lord knows I am.

      Hope this helps. This is also a topic that calls for a much lengthier conversation. Do I smell a video or podcast coming along soon? πŸ˜‰

  • Justine
    February 26, 2014

    Ooooh, yes! Please do. :) And yes, this was indeed insightful. Thanks for the response and can’t wait until the next post :)

    • arnellelozada
      arnellelozada
      Justine
      February 26, 2014

      I definitely will! :) And I’m glad you enjoyed the read. Thank you again for always keeping up.

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